#STOPMOMSHAMING

As if being a Mom is not hard enough that some Moms still exhaust their remaining energy to put other Moms down -- whatever it is that they do.

I tried ("tried") getting to the root of all these. It is not a fact but maybe it is because of one thing.

As Moms, we want and try to give our best to our babies. EVERYTHING. Despite Motherhood being tiring, mentally and emotionally draining, we still do it because it's maternal instinct to do so. To love our babies too much and giving them nothing but the best. There is nothing that we wouldn't do for our angels. But somehow, despite our best efforts, sometimes we still feel like it is not enough and we could have done better (mostly because some people told you so!) Then we see other Moms on Social Media who are able to do what they want and "acing" Motherhood. They get to their daily workout, having the best postpartum bodies, preparing breakfast for their husbands, reading a book, etc. while there you are, struggling to get your baby to latch or having the worst backpains ever! Then it spirals up to Jealousy. "Why can she do all those and I can't? She must be doing something wrong?" then we try to find a fault. And it STARTS THERE!

One example is the judgment on Formula-Feeding Moms.

I don't get it. Breastfeeding Moms get judged all the time for feeding in public saying how it's inappropriate. People throwing fallacious claims about breastfeeding. Breastfeeding will exhaust you to bits. And to hear those comments is kind of annoying. But why do they treat FF moms like they're giving poison to their babies? They know how it feels! They always find a way to associate all the BEST traits of a kid with BREASTFEEDING. It's not true.

What's true is breastmilk has better nutrients than Formula. No one is contesting that. But I know a lot of FF kids who are smart, funny, kind, healthy, etc. It's because they were raised well. And if we continue to interfere with how a Mom raises her own child, then we will have a scarcity of happy and smart kids in the future. (You know, sad mom = sad home = unhappy kids) BF moms, you don't know everyone's stories. You don't know everyone's struggles. Tell you what.

What if that Mom that you judged was raped and she chose to accept the blessing and raise the angel. Yet struggles to disassociate the rape to breastfeeding? What do you think that feels like?

What if one Mom had a complication after giving birth and had to be away from her kid for two weeks?

What if the child weaned too early?

What if there's really no milk? (THIS IS POSSIBLE. And no, it doesn't mean that they did not try "hard enough" - whatever that means)

And what if it is really their choice?

It doesn't even stop there, Moms get judged for

Being a Stay-at-Home Mom (or working!)

Choosing Diapers over Cloth

Baby-wearing

Having a vacation after giving birth

Language they use at home

Breastfeeding in public

Breastfeeding after 1 year old